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Liza Miron, Family Constellations facilitator and coach, discusses ancestral trauma through family entanglements and how we can heal from them.
Discover how to balance ancestral anger while honoring those ancestors, the importance of acceptance and belonging, and so much more.
About Liza
With over 15 years of hands-on experience with different modalities, Family Constellations facilitator and trainer Liza Miron is passionate about nurturing growth, fostering awareness, and uncovering underlying threads that keep people from enjoying their lives. This is complemented by her dynamic academic background, including a BA in Business Administration, an MA in Coaching and Human Resources Management, and spectrum-wide certifications including NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Reiki, and Syntara System Energy Healing.
The Invisible Threads of Love: Finding Freedom Through Family Constellations with Liza Miron
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The Family System: More Than Just a List of Names
Liza Miron is a coach and Family Constellations facilitator who helps people look at their lives through a systemic lens. Usually, when we think about our problems—whether it’s a struggle with money, a recurring health issue, or a pattern of difficult relationships—we look at ourselves. We ask, “What am I doing wrong?”
But Family Constellations asks a different question: “Who are you carrying this for?”
Liza explains that we are all part of a family system, an energetic web that connects us to our ancestors, even those we never met. In this system, there are certain Orders of Love. When these orders are followed, life flows easily. But when someone in the system is excluded, forgotten, or judged—perhaps a black sheep, a child lost too soon, or someone who committed an act the family felt they had to hide—the system becomes entangled.
Entanglements
Liza shared that we energetically take on entanglements our ancestors did not resolve, and unconsciously decide to repeat their fates.
If a grandmother was never allowed to be successful, a granddaughter might find herself sabotaging her own career just as she reaches the top. If a father lived a life of deep grief, a son might carry a persistent sadness that doesn’t actually belong to his own lived experience. We do this as a way of saying, “I will suffer like you so I can belong to you.”
At Just Like Nana, we talk a lot about belonging, and Liza’s perspective is profound: the need to belong is so strong that we would rather be unhappy and fit in with the family trauma than be happy and feel like an outsider. Healing, therefore, isn’t just about changing our behavior; it’s about acknowledging the entanglement and choosing a conscious love instead.
The Right to Belong: Honoring the Excluded
Liza shared that the most common cause of systemic distress is exclusion. When we judge a family member—maybe an uncle who struggled with addiction or a great-aunt who was difficult—we are essentially trying to push them out of the system.
But the family system doesn’t allow for exclusions. If we try to push someone out, the system will often task a later generation to represent them. You might find yourself acting exactly like the person your family refused to talk about.
The healing work in a Family Constellation is about giving everyone their rightful place. It’s about looking at the black sheep and saying, I see you. You belong here, too.” When we return the excluded members to the family circle, the energy that was spent representing them is finally freed up, and the whole system can begin to settle.
The Power of Saying “Yes” to Reality
I asked Liza about the most powerful tool we can use to start this work, and her answer was strikingly simple: acknowledging what is.
So often, we spend our energy fighting against the truth of our family history. We wish our parents were different; we wish the trauma hadn’t happened; we judge the choices made by those who came before us. But judgment is a wall that stops healing in its tracks.
Liza taught us that the most healing sentence you can ever say is a simple, wholehearted “Yes.”
This “Yes” isn’t about liking what happened or condoning harmful behavior. It is about acknowledging the reality of the past. When we stop fighting the truth, we stop being victims of it. We can look at our ancestors and say, “This was your fate, and I honor it. And now, I leave it with you so I can live mine.” This act of leaving it with them is a profound form of respect that allows the heavy energy of the past to transform into strength for your future.
Living as an Honor to the Dead
Perhaps the most beautiful message Liza shared is that we do not honor our ancestors by suffering as they did. In fact, the greatest gift we can give to those who came before us is to live a full, happy, and vibrant life.
Imagine your ancestors standing behind you. They survived wars, famines, and unimaginable hardships so that the river of life could reach you. They didn’t do all that work so that you would stay stuck in their pain. They want their survival to be worth it. When you thrive, you are telling them, “Thank you for the life you passed down. I am doing something good with it.”
Liza’s work at Coaching and Constellations offers so many resources for this—from short five-minute videos to deep-dive workshops. I encourage you to check out her website and see if this modality lights up something for you.
Stay curious, stay cozy, and remember: you belong here.
Which ancestor is ready to be seen and honored in your heart today?
Resources Mentioned
Connect with Liza Miron
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- Website: justlikenana.com
- Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed.